The man, whom you loved and whom you thought loved you, has decided to walk away. You are daunted by the thought that you will not find love again and it’s as if your life is going to end.
In three words, I can sum up everything I’ve learnt about life. It goes on. – Robert Frost
Bear in mind, everything around you still moves on with or without you knowing. You need to accept the fact. Cry as much as you need to ‘cause you will soon get tired of it and eventually – stop crying.
Do not be afraid of moving slowly, be afraid of standing still.
In order to learn to love someone, you need to first love yourself. You can only find happiness through learning to love yourself and be happy even when you are alone. By accepting the fact and picking up yourself, you will soon find yourself on the way back into love – which is most probably new.
But how can he leave me just like that? He used to say I am the one and he couldn’t imagine his life without me!
If you know that something is no longer working in the way that you want it to be, you may choose to fix it or leave it and find something new. Unfortunately, when it comes to something, like love, that has no absolute answer and solutions, guys, especially, will choose to walk away.
Don’t keep thinking that he has betrayed your love and has been lying all along throughout the relationship. There and then, he may really have loved you and could not imagine his life without you. But when reality sets in and the differences surface, separation may seem to be a reasonable choice at least for now.
I forgive. I forget.
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4. Remove anything that will remind you of him
Start doing a spring-cleaning of the stuff that reminds you of him or the both of you together. You don’t need more things to remind you of your pain. In addition, it will also keep you busy for a while. Don’t have to feel pity. Move on and start creating new memories.
But these are memories I would like to keep
Sure. When I mentioned to remove, I don’t really mean throwing ‘em away. You may have them sealed in a box and reminisced them years after you have moved on. In fact, by then, these memories will also serve as a reminder of how you have survived and how strong you have become.
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5. Go for a retail therapy
I’m not implying that he left you ‘cause you are not beautiful and therefore, you need to make yourself beautiful. In case, you don’t remember the number of Hollywood beauties who got dumped. The point here is regardless whether you are a Miss Universe or not, your confidence may be dampened when a guy decided to leave you.
I bet he wants to find someone prettier and younger
Stop guessing what he wants or what he thinks. Because you are not HIM. So get over with it and focus on yourself. By treating yourself better, you will feel happier and move out of the sorrow earlier. In fact, a weird fact about men is that they tend to love women who are confident and don’t give a damn about them, than women who are needy and want to cling onto them each and every seconds.
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