Thursday, 24 February 2011
A blink of eyes and I'll be leaving Singapore in a few hours time. The first time in my life that I'm travelling to such a far place! So many miles and miles and miles and miles away from home...If not for the change in my life which happened 3 months ago, I wouldn't have the courage and impulse to something this crazy.
It was our wish to fly to England together. Nevertheless, I would still be able to fulfill this wish. As inevitably, I will carry a part of you that lingers within me on this trip.
Until 4th March...Ciaoz!
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| I coloured my life at 23:19
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Wednesday, 23 February 2011
Will be leaving Singapore in a day's time. Had a nasty night at home 'cause of some family issues. Feeling so depressed. Sometimes, you seriously can't believe the things that people say to hurt each other.
Dear God, where is the love?
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| I coloured my life at 22:22
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Sunday, 13 February 2011
Pre-Valentine's Day
I guess most of the couples out there might have already planned to go for a nice and romantic dinner tonight so as to avoid the crowd on Valentine's Day tomorrow. In fact, lately, I realised that alot of the people whom I know have fallen out of love, are one-by-one getting romantically involved all over again.
Don't get me wrong - although I am very much single right now, I am not going to bitch about how commercialized Valentine's day is all about and how the singles should have a helluva time out there singing "love stinks".
The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.
...Henry Miller
I just want to wish everyone a HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY on the 14 February 2011. To love and be loved! Be it romance, friendship, or kinship. Remember love is what keeps us breathing and alive. Well as for me, I am enjoying the newly gained luxury of sitting back and having no trouble thinking of what to buy as a Valentine's Day gift. In fact, I will be spending my V day with my piano teacher! =)
Credits: sxc.hu
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| I coloured my life at 16:21
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Thursday, 10 February 2011
Down with fever
This is obviously a bad start to the new lunar year. The whole family was down with flu and fever. Arrghz I was trying very hard to clear as much work as possible before leaving for London in 2 weeks' time but I have no energy to even crawl to work. Dear body, please recover soon!
And I guess, when you are so sick and needy...you will just hope that somebody is there for you... How have you been? I guess you have walked so far away from me that I couldn't even see your shadow anymore.
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| I coloured my life at 19:14
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Wednesday, 9 February 2011
It's not the end of the world
Sometimes when we are in pain, we thought perhaps we are at the end of our world because we focused so much on our pain.
But our perspectives change when we got out and saw the world outside.
The things and the people around you. And you realise, maybe, your problem is just a tiny weeny bit in comparison to the big big world outside.
So then you woke up, stepped outside and started smiling at everyone.
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| I coloured my life at 20:50
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Sunday, 30 January 2011
Get up, Get out, Get over - Episode 2
The man, whom you loved and whom you thought loved you, has decided to walk away. You are daunted by the thought that you will not find love again and it’s as if your life is going to end.
In three words, I can sum up everything I’ve learnt about life. It goes on. – Robert Frost
Bear in mind, everything around you still moves on with or without you knowing. You need to accept the fact. Cry as much as you need to ‘cause you will soon get tired of it and eventually – stop crying.
Do not be afraid of moving slowly, be afraid of standing still.
In order to learn to love someone, you need to first love yourself. You can only find happiness through learning to love yourself and be happy even when you are alone. By accepting the fact and picking up yourself, you will soon find yourself on the way back into love – which is most probably new.
But how can he leave me just like that? He used to say I am the one and he couldn’t imagine his life without me!
If you know that something is no longer working in the way that you want it to be, you may choose to fix it or leave it and find something new. Unfortunately, when it comes to something, like love, that has no absolute answer and solutions, guys, especially, will choose to walk away.
Don’t keep thinking that he has betrayed your love and has been lying all along throughout the relationship. There and then, he may really have loved you and could not imagine his life without you. But when reality sets in and the differences surface, separation may seem to be a reasonable choice at least for now.
I forgive. I forget.
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4. Remove anything that will remind you of him
Start doing a spring-cleaning of the stuff that reminds you of him or the both of you together. You don’t need more things to remind you of your pain. In addition, it will also keep you busy for a while. Don’t have to feel pity. Move on and start creating new memories.
But these are memories I would like to keep
Sure. When I mentioned to remove, I don’t really mean throwing ‘em away. You may have them sealed in a box and reminisced them years after you have moved on. In fact, by then, these memories will also serve as a reminder of how you have survived and how strong you have become.
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5. Go for a retail therapy
I’m not implying that he left you ‘cause you are not beautiful and therefore, you need to make yourself beautiful. In case, you don’t remember the number of Hollywood beauties who got dumped. The point here is regardless whether you are a Miss Universe or not, your confidence may be dampened when a guy decided to leave you.
I bet he wants to find someone prettier and younger
Stop guessing what he wants or what he thinks. Because you are not HIM. So get over with it and focus on yourself. By treating yourself better, you will feel happier and move out of the sorrow earlier. In fact, a weird fact about men is that they tend to love women who are confident and don’t give a damn about them, than women who are needy and want to cling onto them each and every seconds.
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| I coloured my life at 16:06
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Saturday, 22 January 2011
GET UP, GET OUT AND GET OVER
As I sit in front of my desktop, I’m wondering if I even qualify to pen my thoughts down as advices for the ladies out there. Whilst this may not be of any professional advice from a relationship expert, I would like to just share some of my experiences out there – for those beautiful (inner and outer) ladies who are suffering heartbreaks. It’s all about getting up, getting out and finally getting over.
It’s not you, It’s me – From the thousands of jerks out there
Yes, you heard it right and it could still be ringing deep in your ears. The guy, who told you that “I love you, and will marry you” (perhaps after sex) last night, is saying something drastically painful and contradicting now. You might be thinking. “Oh, it’s just some hurtful words from him ‘cause we just had a huge quarrel! Everything’s gonna be okay.”
So when you wake up the next morning, you realized, you had fallen out of love – you are now SINGLE. So you got up, looked at the mirror, and saw a zombified face staring right back at you. Yes, that’s you. What do you do now? *sobbed*
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Let it go, if it’s meant to be, it will be – For there will be an answer.
1. It’s not easy but you have to remove ALL his contacts.
BBM, MSN, WHATSAPP, FACEBOOK, MYSPACE, FRIENDSTER…
Anything that you can list on top of what I have above. PRESS THE DELETE BUTTON.
But we can remain as friends, can’t we?
Yes, you may. But trust me, this is not the time yet. Not yet. I once thought that I am strong enough to still remain as friend with him. Keeping in touch. I was wrong. I wake up in the middle of the night sometimes thinking he will leave a goodnight message or something *cause we are still friends*.
Remember, once you have broken up, you are two single entities with no strings attached and no obligations. Why would he still invest effort and time on somebody whom he has decided that it won’t work. What’s more, you won’t want to shatter your heart further when you saw his newly uploaded photos *flashing right in your face and blatantly telling you “I’ve moved on”*
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2. No contact for at least 60 days.
A step further from deleting his contacts is to not contact him for at least – the next 60 days.
You have already told me to delete his contacts...
Yes, I know. But I also know that deep down, his number is already etched in your mind. So the objective for removing his contacts is to also STOP contacting him.
They call it the text message terrorism. Terrorizing the lad through messenger, whatsapp, BBM, etc asking him “why, why, why”, “why can’t you give our relationship a second chance!” You need to stop it.
Guys are not Tag Heuer. They crack under pressure – From a buddy who randomly blurts out inspiring quotes that are worth a laugh. Totally.
The more you want to get an answer from the man, the more he shunned away from you. He has made it very clear. You don’t need him to repeat another “It’s not you, It’s me. You will be better off with another guy. Trust me.”
There are ten thousand reasons to be together, and one reason to walk away.
So before he thinks that you are such a lousy cry baby, who even start to stalk him on Facebook, Friendster (worst to even log in to his email account using his password), etc, you need to show him that you will be fine with or without him. At least stop clinging onto him with a question that clearly will not have an acceptable nor logical answer. At least, when you leave the relationship, you know that you have left with DIGNITY.
What if he wants to be with me again?
This only happens in the movies. If he has decided that it would not work out, what makes him suddenly think that “hey, it will work again!” Unless there is a very, very good reason or something about the both of you have changed – this rarely happens in a short period of time. Even if the both of you got together again, don’t be surprised of a second breakup.
WHAT IF HE TRULY WANTS ME BACK!!!
Alright, sometimes miracle does happen. Note the word “miracle” (painful but true). And I have also seen a very few couples back together after a breakup. But if he really wants you back. He WILL find a way.
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3. Keep a journal and pen down the whole list of things on “how he sucks (hello, not literally in case you are wondering)”
When you are out of the relationship, your brain keeps telling you the good ‘o memories both of you had together. You seemed to have forgotten the anger, frustrations and pain that the man had once inflicted on you. So with a fresh memory still in place, write down the whole list of items you hate about the man. Yes, keep repeating the scenarios when he tried to kiss you with his bad breath, hug you with a bad odor or had a bad dress/hair day.
In that journal, you may also want to write down how sad or depressed you feel. A channel for you to vent your frustrations. You may want to write down how much you wanted him back, etc. This is a way for you to let out your thoughts and feelings rather than picking up the phone and text messaged him the words. Note that this journal should not be accessible by the man but only close friends who want to know how you are doing and be there for you. The man should not be in the knowledge that you are still in great pain because of his decision.
You, alone, are responsible for your own happiness
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Labels: breakup, get out, get over, get up
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| I coloured my life at 12:49
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Thursday, 20 January 2011
Still in pain
Still very much affected. By his words, his actions, his messages…his face. I know I have to move on. I am still very much affected even though I pretended I am fine as his friends.
Dear friend, I know you have moved on. Now, I need to leave you totally…so that I can move on.
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| I coloured my life at 20:32
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