10 years ago, we were talking about the cute guy-next-door. 10 years later, we are perhaps now talking about the wedding gowns, husbands, and kids. But pardon me, I’m just the listener most of the time. Well~ It’s so cliché but time really flies so FAST. We have all grown so much older.

Frankly, the topic that has been going round and round my girl friends is - MARRIAGE. Because I have two extreme groups of friends, I can really see the difference between gatherings with the girls and the boys. Even when it comes to twitter or blog or facebook status, or photo albums, they are all about WEDDINGS and MARRIAGE. Alright, it’s not that I’m against it or what, just that…sometimes I thought girls might be a little too obsessed over relationship. And I feel that..when things don’t go the way too perfect…girls got crashed totally. LIKE TOTALLY.

For instance, I used to be envious of friends who got married young…have a loving husband..and a couple of cute sons. But on the other side, they might be envious of the freedom of being a single as well. In fact..I just got a news from a friend of her failed marriage. I don’t call it a failure…but it’s just a marriage that didn’t work out eventually. But I admired her courage to make such a decision against the perspectives of others and to focus on her career. Which also means fairytales don’t always have a happy ending.

Then I have a cousin who is getting married end of this year. She has been waiting for this day to arrive for the past 9 years. And when it finally comes, she is hesitating if this is the right decision. I didn’t comment neither did I give her my advice. I mean seriously, who am I to judge anyway. But because of this ROM thing, she has been feeling so troubled…so troubled.

Then I read about quarrels between friends over wedding preparations and blogs that are COMPLETELY FILLED with only boyfriends boyfriends and ONLY BOYFRIENDS. It makes me wonder…do we girls ever live for ourselves? Like I mean…really for ourselves…our life…our career…What if one day, the relationship or that guy just doesn’t work the way we want it to be, will our lives be totally disrupted? Like what happened to me 2 years back. mmm…